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Become the woman who feels desired, chosen, and done chasing
a 16-Week relationship healing program
Rewrite the anxious love story you were hypnotized into, so love feels calm, safe, and chosen.
Become the woman who feels desired, chosen, and done chasing
a 16-Week relationship healing program
Rewrite the anxious love story you were hypnotized into, so love feels calm, safe, and chosen.
Secure is the new sexy
Let's wire your mind and body to believe it.
I grew up in the Rom-Com era and I'm sure you did too, so bear with me.
Rom-Coms taught us love was a destination. Nobody mentioned you had to lose yourself to get there. We grew up watching women change everything for love.
We watched women change their hair, their careers, their cities, and their entire personalities for love, and we called it romance.
And when a woman showed up fully as herself, the story made her pay for it. Rachel from Friends said what she wanted out loud, and Ross made an actual pros and cons list about her. Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City spent six seasons shrinking her feelings to fit a man who could barely name his own.
I could name about 20 more shows that fit this profile.
So we became hypnotized into wanting less. Needing less. Being chill.
Then there's Elle Woods. Warner dumped her for not being serious enough, and she answered by getting into Harvard in head-to-toe pink. She stayed exactly who she was, and that's the version of her that won.
In my practice, I sit with smart, capable women whose nervous systems still believe the old script.
The second they like someone, they start editing themselves, softening their asks, and waiting to be chosen. Their bodies learned that somewhere, and bodies can learn something new.
That's the work inside Wired for Secure Love: sixteen weeks to rewire the part of you that disappears when love shows up so relationship anxiety stops costing you days of mental replay, and you experience intimacy and connection with a calm confidence that sounds like something from a healthy 50-year marriage, not a situationship survival guide.
It's time to stop controlling and contorting yourself to keep a man interested, and start feeling magnetic exactly as you are.
what women are saying:
sound on for a message from shannon
You are self-aware. Intelligent.
Reflective. and unfortunately completely Exhausted.
If you're here you probably understand your attachment style, your childhood wound, the exact moment things go sideways. You already know the pattern. Your body just hasn't gotten the memo yet.
Underneath all that awareness is something simpler. You want to be met. You want a love that feels like rest, with a man who shows up consistently so your body can finally exhale.
And then your partner calls and your anxiety goes online before you even say hello.
Or they go quiet and suddenly you are three hours deep into decoding what that means.
And then they say something small, a tone, a one-word text, a little distance, and you spend the rest of the day managing the fallout inside your own head.
It’s not a knowledge problem. Your nervous system has been running this pattern for years and doesn't care how much you understand it.
This is for you if:
You reread his text three times before responding, trying to decode what he actually meant.
You soften your needs because you're afraid they won't like you anymore.
You start negotiating with yourself. Maybe I came on too strong. Maybe I should text back later so I don’t seem eager.
You soften what you’re looking for so you seem easier to be with.
You notice a red flag on date two and talk yourself out of it because you don’t want to seem dramatic before you’ve even given it a chance.
You wait. You hope. You adapt. And the longer you’re interested, the more your standards quietly start to slide.
You're not incapable either, you just couldn't access your confidence in that moment.
When your feelings for someone kick in, you don’t lose intelligence, you just lose access to yourself. Your decisions start coming from fear of loss, fear of being too much, fear of rocking the boat.
That is the real pain.
You’re not confused about love and connection. You’re exhausted from the constant internal math of: How do I keep connection without becoming too much?
And deep down, you already know the truth. You don’t need another relationship or dating tip. You need inner safety, so you can stay connected to yourself while you’re dating. You need to stop dating below your own standard.
And if we're being honest, there's a loneliness in it too. It's the quiet kind that shows up even when someone is texting you back, because the real you hasn't been invited into the room yet.
Imagine what it feels like for love to finally feel effortless
Imagine
...feeling alive again. A little wild. A little unpredictable. Fully, unapologetically your own unique expression, not performing a muted version to keep someone interested.
Imagine
... noticing someone pull back and not spiraling, not overtexting, not writing a whole story about what it means. Just pausing. Staying steady. Trusting yourself.
Imagine
... attracting someone who is just as willing to give and receive, without you having to convince him to.
Imagine
... trusting your own read on someone even when he’s inconsistent, because his inconsistency no longer gets to define your worth.
Imagine what it feels like to finally come home to yourself.
Imagine
...staying grounded even when emotions
rise, because you know how
to come back to you.
Imagine
... noticing someone pull back and not spiraling, not chasing, not collapsing into stories. Just pausing. Staying steady. Trusting yourself.
Imagine
expressing your needs clearly and calmly, without guilt, without over-explaining, without making yourself smaller so they’re easier to swallow.
Imagine
trusting your inner truth even when someone else is uncertain, because their uncertainty no longer gets to define you.
Imagine
being so at home in your body that he gets to lead, you get to receive, and nobody has to perform.
Imagine in 16 weeks from now this is your life:
You are the woman who experiences love that feels steady instead of chaotic.
You experience early connection that feels mutual instead of anxious.
You can say “this isn’t what I’m looking for” and stay regulated while you say it.
You stop performing for interest.
You stop accepting hot and cold as if it’s just how dating goes.
You stop abandoning yourself to keep someone interested.
You feel desired and chosen without chasing, convincing, or proving.
You make room for him to be who he is, because you trust yourself enough to soften.
You feel your emotions without being ruled by them, three texts deep into silence.
You set standards from self-respect, not fear of being alone.
You choose from groundedness, not urgency.
You become the safe place you were always looking for in someone else.
And from that place, you actually get to choose. Partnership, if it's aligned. Staying solo awhile longer, if that's what's true right now. Either way, it's a choice, not a scramble.
Success here was never "she gets the guy." It's her, present, not spiraling, choosing herself instead of fear. That's the win, whatever it ends up including.
BETTER, TOGETHER
You don’t have to
do it alone.
♡
This is the community that holds you, cheers you on and grows with you.
A space to share the ups, the doubts, and the small wins, with women who understand.
Come as you are.
Find your people along the way.
Wired for Secure Love
A 16-Week Dating Program in nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, and embodied self-leadership in love and dating.
become
Wired for Secure Love
A 16-Week Relationship Healing Program in nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, and energetics.
This program helps you interrupt the pattern of self-abandonment and build genuine inner security, not as a concept you understand, but as something you actually feel in your body.
You will learn to regulate your nervous system, hold your standards, and stay connected to yourself during relational intensity.
So you can attract instead of chase. Respond instead of spiral. And choose from self-trust instead of fear.
This program doesn't close through the holidays. It holds you through them, with built-in integration weeks over Thanksgiving and Christmas/New Year.
Your transformation doesn't start when the program starts. it starts the moment you decide to jump on a call.
You are not becoming someone new, you are reclaiming what's underneath the performance.
You can understand your patterns completely and still get pulled into them the moment something triggers you.
That’s because your patterns don’t live in your mind. They live in your body, in your nervous system, and deep in your subconscious programming.
Quick aside, because this should be fun too: masculine energy grills the steak without a recipe. Feminine energy lights candles nobody asked for and changes the whole room. Neither's better. Both live in you. This program stops you from overriding your true nature. When you stop overriding your feminine, you stop doing his job for him. That's when magnetism kicks in.
That’s exactly why this program combines three tools
that work beneath the level of insight:
01
Hypnotherapy:
Reprogramming What’s Running in the Background
Most of us don’t consciously choose to people-please, shrink, or abandon ourselves. We do it automatically, because it’s what we learned to do to feel safe, to be loved, to belong.
Those are subconscious programs. And talking about them, while helpful, doesn’t always change them.
Hypnotherapy works by guiding you into a deeply relaxed, focused state where your conscious mind steps back and your subconscious becomes open to new input. In that state, we can gently replace the old belief, “I have to be agreeable to be loved”, with something true: that you are worthy of love exactly as you are.
It’s not magic. It’s neuroscience. And it creates change that holds, because it’s working at the level where the pattern actually lives.
02
Nervous System + ENERGY Training:
Building Safety in Real Time
Your triggers don’t care whether you’re on a first date or six months in. The same activation that happens when a match goes quiet also happens when your mother criticizes you or your boss dismisses your idea.
This program trains your body to stay self-led anywhere closeness, uncertainty, or a slow reply shows up. Not by managing your reactions after the fact, by building a regulated baseline so the reaction is different from the start.
You'll also learn how masculine and feminine energy work in dating, so you can stop doing all the pursuing and let him meet you halfway.
03
Breathwork:
Discharging What the Body
Has Been Holding
Breathwork is one of the fastest ways to move your nervous system out of survival and back into safety. It works directly with your physiology to release stored stress, open your chest, and restore a felt sense of calm in your body.
It’s not just relaxation. It’s a nervous system reset, for the 11pm spiral over an unanswered text, or the anxiety before a first date.
Together, these three tools don’t just teach you what’s happening.
They change what your body does when it’s happening.
What changes when you become Wired for Secure Love
You notice when you're getting triggered early, before it turns into a spiral, and you know exactly how to come back to center before you send that text.
You communicate clearly and directly on dates, without over-explaining, proving, or making your needs smaller so they’re easier to receive.
You set standards with steadiness, without guilt spirals, without second-guessing, without abandoning yourself afterward.
You trust your internal read on someone, even when he’s uncertain, inconsistent, or not ready.
You feel steady in dating and in life, because your nervous system becomes a place you can rely on.
You stop choosing from fear of being alone and start choosing from self-trust.
You stop performing a version of yourself, so the man who falls for you is falling for the real you.
You raise your standard, for who you date, for what you accept, for the life you build.
The Ripple Effect
The same self-trust that stabilizes you in dating stabilizes you in every area of your life. You stop shaping your choices around being chosen and start shaping them around alignment. That's what it means to be Wired for Secure Love.
01
In your friendships:
Less people-pleasing and resentment. More mutual respect and honest communication.
02
In your career:
Stronger voice. Clearer decisions. Better leadership. Less performing for validation.
03
In your relationship with money:
A clearer sense of your worth. Comfort receiving. Ability to hold more without self-sabotage.
04
In your body:
Better sleep. Less chronic tension. More intuitive self-care. Fewer stress-related symptoms.
When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop leaking energy.
And your whole life starts to rise to meet the standard you’ve set, in
dating and everywhere else.
What’s included in
Wired for secure love
no. 1
Weekly online Embodiment Sessions
The most important sacred date night you'll have in this season is one with yourself. One live session per week, alternating between teaching and embodiment work. Teaching sessions break down how your nervous system works, energy dynamics in relationships, why you respond the way you do, and what actually creates lasting change. Embodiment sessions are where you practice it, in real time, with guidance. You will leave each session with something you can use on your next date.
no. 2
Private Resource Library
Every month you receive two recordings added to your private library: one guided hypnosis for your dating patterns and one nervous system regulation breathwork session. The hypnosis recordings work directly with your
subconscious to update the beliefs driving your patterns, needing to be agreeable to be chosen, or believing your needs are too much. The breathwork recordings help you reset your physiology after a conversation, a text exchange, or a spiral. Both are yours to return to between sessions and beyond the program.
no. 3
guest speaker sessions
Access to curated guest speaker sessions covering Human Design, sex and Intimacy, energetics, dating and relationship communication, trauma, and a range of evidence-informed tools designed to support meaningful transformation within a supportive community.
no. 4
Weekly Integration Prompts
Each week you receive a short set of prompts designed to help you apply what you’re learning in your actual dating life, not in a protected bubble. These are practical, specific, and built around the exact situations that tend to activate you most, the slow reply, the mixed signal, the third date jitters.
no. 5
Shannon GPT Support
Shannon GPT is an AI tool trained in the language and frameworks of this work, available to you between sessions. When something gets activated in real time, when you are about to send a text you will regret, when you are spiraling at midnight and need to come back to yourself, Shannon GPT is there to help you work through it. You are never alone between sessions.
no. 5
Private Telegram Community
Access to a private community of women doing this work alongside you. This is not a social media group. It is a contained, intentional space for real conversation, honest sharing, and the kind of support that comes from being around women who actually get what dating from this place feels like.
BONUS 1
PRIVATE HOT SEAT WITH SHANNON
One private 30-minute session with me on the Live Call, just you and me, to work through whatever is coming up in your dating life right now. Real situations, real answers, tailored to you.
BONUS 2
DATING IN FLOW COURSE
Get instant access to my Dating in Flow course, a self-paced practice for getting clear on what you want and staying calm while you date. Start it the day you enroll, before the first live call.
no. 6
Optional Private Hypnotherapy Sessions with Shannon
At a discounted rate, these sessions go deeper than what’s possible in a group setting. Shannon works directly with the specific subconscious patterns, memories, or beliefs that are most alive for you, creating targeted shifts that accelerate everything else in the program.
Join as a Member
Wired for Secure love program
1 live group session per week (teaching, embodiment, and live coaching, alternating)
Private library: 1 guided hypnosis for your dating patterns + 1 nervous system regulation breathwork per month
Curated guest speaker sessions (energetics, human design, attachment science)
Weekly integration prompts
Telegram community access
BONUS: 1 private 30-min hot seat coaching session with Shannon
BONUS: Dating in Flow course (full access)
tier 2 | VIP
1 live group session per week (teaching + embodiment, alternating)
Private library: 1 guided relational repatterning hypnosis + 1 nervous system regulation breathwork per month
Curated guest speaker sessions
Weekly integration prompts
Telegram community access
plus vip only support:
8 private hypnotherapy sessions with Shannon (in person or online 2 per month)
Voice note channel in Telegram for extra ongoing support and riffs from Shannon
4-Month Regular Price: $5,400
Founding Price: $1,997
Flexible payment plans available
Our Promise to You
I am so confident that if you show up and do the work, you will feel the shift.
Here is what I ask: attend the first two live sessions and complete the assigned practices. Give your nervous system the chance to experience something different.
If within fourteen days you genuinely feel it's not a right fit, email us. Your full investment will be applied as a full credit toward any future program or 1:1 support. I stand behind this work completely. The only thing I ask is that you show up for yourself first.
No pressure. no hoops, just a commitment FROM us that your growth is the only thing that matters here.
Meet Shannon Rodriguez
Clinical Hypnotherapist • Breathwork Guide • Somatic Coach
I want to tell you something I don’t share in my credentials. I am a hopeless romantic, and I learned a lot from that.
For years, I was a chameleon in relationships.
If he liked fishing, I liked fishing. If he was into CrossFit, suddenly I was into CrossFit, even though I always left feeling sore, stressed, and quietly resentful of how much I’d twisted myself to fit.
I wouldn’t give my opinion on where to eat. I wouldn’t say what I actually wanted. I kept myself agreeable, easy, low-maintenance, because somewhere deep down I believed that having needs would cost me love.
In friendships, I’d give and give and give until I had nothing left, and then wonder why I felt so empty. I’d be the one who always checked in, always showed up, always made it work, and I’d never once ask for the same in return. I didn’t know who I was, because I’d spent so long becoming whoever I thought someone else needed me to be.
It wasn’t until I found hypnotherapy that things actually shifted.
Not because I finally understood my patterns, I’d understood them for years. But because hypnosis helped me reach the place where those patterns actually lived: in my subconscious, in the deep beliefs I’d formed as a little girl about what I had to do to be loved, to be safe, to belong.
Beliefs like: be agreeable. Be perfect. Don’t rock the boat. Your needs are too much.
Hypnotherapy helped me rewrite those. And when the subconscious program changed, my relationships changed. My standards changed. My entire relationship with myself changed.
I became someone who knew what she wanted, and said so. Someone who could feel her own edges and hold them with warmth instead of guilt. Someone who stopped shrinking and started taking up exactly the space she was always meant to take.
I built this program because I know what it’s like to understand your patterns and still feel stuck in them. And I know that the missing piece is almost never more insight, it’s nervous system safety and subconscious reprogramming.
That’s what this container is built to give you.
This might not be for you if…
You’re looking for a quick fix without practicing the tools.
You want communication scripts without nervous system work.
You’re not ready to be honest with yourself about the patterns you’ve been repeating.
You’ve already paid the price of staying the same.
Every time you override your truth to keep connection, your nervous system learns the same lesson again:
My needs are dangerous. My voice creates distance. Love requires me to disappear.
That lesson compounds. It shows up louder every time the stakes get higher, the third date, the exclusivity talk, the “where is this
going” conversation. It costs you the most when you care the most.
Waiting isn’t neutral. Every time you choose the pattern over yourself, it gets a little more grooved in, a little more automatic, a
little more like just who you are on dates.
But it is not who you are. It is what you learned. And what was learned can be unlearned.
Now is the time, not because you’re broken, but because you’re ready. You’ve been ready. You just needed a container that actually works at the level where the pattern lives.
This is also a founding cohort, which means early access, tighter proximity, and a rare opportunity to help shape the future of this
program.
It’s time to stop dating below what you deserve, and start dating from a body that feels safe.
When your body feels safe, secure love stops feeling like a fantasy.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Questions you might
be sitting with
What if I’m not currently dating anyone?
Perfect. This work isn’t dependent on having a match or a partner. You’ll build inner
security in your relationship with yourself first, and that becomes the foundation for how you show up with anyone you meet.
What if my biggest triggers are with family or at work, not in dating?
This applies directly. Dating is often the loudest mirror, but the same nervous system patterns show up with your mother, your friends, and at work. You’ll practice becoming regulated and self-led in every relationship that matters to you, dating included.
What if I meet someone mid-program and things move fast?
That’s welcome here. This program focuses entirely on what’s in your control, your nervous system, your standards, your communication, your ability to stay self-led. If things move fast, you’ll have the tools in real time, not just in hindsight.
I’ve done therapy and it didn’t fully change my dating patterns. Why would this be different?
Therapy is powerful. But many women still find themselves stuck because the missing piece is nervous system repatterning and subconscious reprogramming, not more insight. This container is built for the moment activation happens, the unanswered text, the mixed signal, not just the understanding of it afterward.
What even is hypnotherapy? Is it like stage hypnosis?
Not at all. Clinical hypnotherapy is a guided, focused relaxation state, you are always aware, always in control. It simply allows your conscious mind to relax enough that your subconscious becomes open to new beliefs. Think of it as updating the software that’s been running in the background your whole dating life.
I’m worried I won’t have time.
This is designed to be livable. The goal isn’t to add more to your plate, it’s to change what you do
inside the moments you’re already living, including the moments you spend on dates and staring at your phone.
This is your seat at your own table.
Not his table. Not the one you’ve been sitting at sideways for years, making yourself smaller so a relationship would go well.
Your own.
The version of you who knows what she wants, and says so. Who feels her own edges and holds them with grace. Who can be fully present on a date without disappearing into it. Who doesn’t just understand her worth, but dates from it. Who is adored, devoted to herself first, and chosen by a man who feels like home.
She’s not someone you become.
She’s someone you come back to.
This is your initiation into
The Self-Led Standard.
A new standard for how you operate in relationships. How you love. How you live. How you allow yourself to be treated.
Not perfect. Not rigid. Not closed. Sovereign.
Enroll in Wired for Secure Love. Become self-led. Set the standard. Come home to yourself.
This is your initiation into
SECURE LOVE.
A new standard for how you love. How you lead. How you live. How you allow yourself to be treated.
Not perfect. Not rigid. Not closed.
Secure. Join Wired for Secure Love.
Desired, chosen, and done chasing chaos in relationships.
join us now!
YOUR NEXT CHAPTER
Come home to yourself.
More self-trust. More connection. More room to be you.
Here’s to the next chapter.
With love,
Shannon
WIRED FOR SECURE LOVE
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